The Comfort of Home From Her

I have spent the last 5 days in High Point, NC at the fall furniture market. Purple, Grey/Silver, Metallic, Blue, and Yellow are all colors that you will see coming out on furniture in the next couple of months!! I had a great time hanging out with my co-workers, but I do have to say that the blisters I received on my feet from walking the 1,000's of sq feet of showroom space were not quite as exciting. Who would have imagined that there is that much furniture out there to be sold. After my 6th trip to market I am still amazed. That is definitely a story for another blog though.

You never really know how much you miss the comforts of home until you are away! While it was nice to get the break from Noble (our lovely dog) whining because he is not getting enough attention, food, belly rubs, etc. It was also nice get a break from hearing "What's for dinner, are you cooking tonight" "We are out of towels are there any in the dryer" or my favorite "Are you watching that on TV can I change the channel" usually I want to say "No I am just sitting here looking at the TV but I am not watching it". Now I am not complaining, because I know that there are many women that would love to have this problem and probably many woman that love the fact that they do not. I just happen to one of the ones that does not mind having the problem and appreciate the fact that I have a wonderful husband who loves me unconditionally (mood swings and all) because boy was I in a mood when I got home today. I am sure he will post a blog on that. I often hear my co-workers and friends say "Marriage is easy now just wait until you have kids" I have to say that I disagree there is not any marriage or relationship that is easy no matter what the situation. If they were easy then everyone would be in one!! I will agree that adding kids to the mix makes it a bit more challenging, but what is life without a challenge.

Since I arrived home this afternoon, my dear husband has cooked dinner, unpacked my bags, washed the towels, and even let me watch what I wanted to on TV tonight (until about 10:30 :-). While I did enjoy being away for a few days, it was nice to come back and enjoy the ALL "The Comforts of Home"

The Cake Eaters From Him

The reality of a marriage is that it is hard work; an occupation that doesn't pay for overtime. With that said the first year is filled with carnal lust. Everyone looks good in the dark and everyone looks good in the daylight. What happens when year one turns into year 5, 6, or 7; we disillusion ourselves with the idea that the same love (oops I mean lust) transcends into something that is beautiful, but in fact what we make beautiful comes from hard work.

Now this monumental undertaking often ends up in a set of circumstances called divorce. In my mind divorce is what happens when people stop being selfless and start becoming selfish, if you remember this you will always remain grounded. I am not saying that I am perfect, because I am just as human as you and sometimes loose my way. You can only be judged not by your peers, but by your significant other, because the problems always begin behind closed doors. I love my wife dearly, but in order to keep her it is going to take some work.

Driving Home

You wake up every morning to the achieve the necessary things to start your day (brush your teeth, shower, and put on your clothes) and you yell as you get in your car "Carpe Diem" Somehow amongst the 8 plus hours "Carpe Diem" turns into dead "Carp"; you ask yourself one question am I working for the better things in life or am I working to have necessary benefits and insurance policies for my wife when I kick off. Let's face it statistically they live longer than us. While you are thinking about that muscle car at 40, or that really cool motorcycle, your arteries are getting harder and it gets a litte bit more difficult for you to get out of the bed each morning. Basically what I am saying "Kill your ego, cherish what is important first, and worry about the selfish things later" When and if those particular things come to fruition and you get everything you ever wanted it's all just one big estate sale waiting to happen and your wife will be holding the sign.

Our First Post From Her

I worked the booth for a cervical cancer non-profit organization Tamika and Friends at the "Blogalicious" event this weekend. It was held the W Hotel in Atlanta, GA. Shouts out to Mamalaw.com they did an awesome job!! It was their first convention. I could type a whole blog on that, but I will save it for later. Anyways, I had no idea how huge this whole blogging industry is. When I got home I was so excited about all that I had learned and all of the people that I met. As I discussed this with my husband I told him we really need to start a blog (of course his version of the story is different, typical man). Afterall he loves to talk, almost as much as me :-) what better outlet to have than a blog!! People tell us all the time that we are funny couple and that they enjoy being around us. I hope that our blog makes you laugh, sometimes it may make you cry, but it is our perspective on "Marriage I Think" As I get ready to push the "publish" button I know that this will be an exciting journey I look forward to going on with the love of my life and all of our followers.

Our First Post From Him

Okay, here it is. I am sitting on the couch watching an incredible documentary on HBO, Maurice Sendak, writer of "Where the Wild Things Are". My wife blurts out from the kitchen "Oh, honey maybe we should do a blog, it will be great to do one together" and I suddenly imagined myself a year from being 40 in a doctor's office for my first colon checkup; because I love my wife and the couch can be such a cold place I decided to blog. Call me whipped, but there are only so many things you can do with the boys. Besides I love my wife and doing things with her sometimes is necessary.